I am struggling with my words and thoughts about how to approach this topic wherein deep down there is so much to express.
Be it a child or an adult, the extent and intensity of expectations remain the same. Crude are my thoughts and rigid is the stance for I believe in rebellion.
We all want a safe and secure environment and I would not at all counter it for the fact that it makes for a comfortable living. But at the same time almost all of us are prey to a mutual feeling of lost and being cheated. How many times have the thought crossed your mind that it was something else that you were born to do and even putting up a fight is not feasible right now!
It crosses my mind every night when I go to sleep and renders me restless. Not because I was forced but because I was afraid (I still am to an extent). There is a famous saying in the army that if you want to complete the circuit, run within the group, neither ahead nor behind. The logic behind the concept, the group drags you on. But this rule primarily applies to individuals who find it more convenient to be led and have no actual ambitions.
Not everybody can be a leader but everybody is and can be different. Life is full of humor and chances if you can smile and dare to accept. Important is not to alter course at every turn but to identify the correct course in order to not miss the right turn.
Expectations are laid down since the day we are born and carrying the dead weight till the very end is always regarded as an accomplishment. You just need some motivation and a few supportive people around to take the plunge.
I always wanted to be an Air Force pilot, turned out to be a Civil Engineer and ended up working in IT. The passion lost to fear in the journey somewhere and it took me a while to unearth the rebel. Writing (Blogging) gives me satisfaction and pleasure but not the safety of my regular job. The struggle to find my feet is still on but I have at least been able to convince myself to try. Success or failure becomes secondary when you are living with a vision rather than just safely dragging on because that’s what is expected. The journey ahead is uncharted for me but I am free to steer it any which way I would want.
There is a thin line that separates guidance from expectation. Guide someone today but let them have their own modest expectations, for life would be much less stressful for them and full of self-respect.
I expect (pun intended!) to hear your side of the argument too and then we can have some common expectations with mutual consent 😛 .
My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance, and in inverse proportion to my expectations.
– Michael J Fox
Till then keep SMILING and LIVE some more while you can, for there’ll be plenty of time to drag on 😛 !
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